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The Dreaded Talk

Hey there!

How is it going? How have you been? How are you taking the whole Covid-19 situation and the lock down?

I have been good and just trying to stay positive and take each day at a time. It is not convenient and emotionally tasking for some of us,still,we have to keep going๐Ÿ˜Š.

Over the years,I have tried to give my kids,Nicole and Zayne,age appropriate sex education,sometimes,it was downright embarrassing,at other times,it was just funny.

But all along,I have dreaded the day I would talk to either of them about actual sex. Ah! As in actual sex about the penis and the vagina๐Ÿ™ˆ. I however recognized that it had to be done but it was not something I looked forward to.

Also,I kept wondering when exactly it was appropriate to even talk about actual sex. I decided that as I have always done,I will let my kids take the lead and this will let me know what they are ready for.

One early morning towards the end of March,two weeks to Nicole’s 10th birthday,I had a long chat with my friend,Janie,whose first child is a year older than Nicole. We talked about when is the right time and she said she spoke to her daughter about the same age as Nicole.I asked her if she talked about specifics,she said yes and she had to even talk about part of her sexual history to drive her points home.

After that conversation with my friend,I decided I would talk to Nicole on her 10th birthday. However,the thought kept niggling at me and I suddenly became uncomfortable. I started wondering if I was not delaying things unnecessarily because I didn’t want her to get the wrong information elsewhere.

The next day,I decide to have a chit chat with her to get a feel of what she knew apart

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Joy Comes in the Morning

Hey there !

How are you and how have you been coping with happenings in the past weeks?
I am fine and believe like me,you are trying to make sense of everything going on all around the world at present๐Ÿ˜Š.

So,we were officially addressed by presidoo yesterday and in summary,we have now been locked down for the next 14 days๐Ÿ™†โ€โ™€๏ธ This is effective from today, 30th March from 11pm.

While I have somewhat expected this to happen,the reality of this is now fully clear to me. We have in the past 2 weeks,especially since the first case of the Covid -19 virus in Abuja was announced,tried to stay home.

However,this is somewhat different and has a certain ring to it that makes me somewhat jittery. Before now,self isolating and staying home was a matter of choice and we could still go out if it was necessary to do so.

This official lockdown which will be going on In the FCT,Lagos and Ogun State is not voluntary or done on discretion. No! This one is ‘you musto siddon for ya house’๐Ÿ˜ฅ

After the kids went to bed,I started thinking to myself,how did we get here? What happened? In less than 2 weeks,life as we know it has completely changed.Should Nigeria as a country not have been better prepared to handle this thing? Should our healthcare system not have been given priority over the years?

I then thought about it some more,should our borders not have been closed and travel ban put in place after we had the first Index case in the country? Should we not have responded better as a people?

I then came to the conclusion that there were too many “should haves”. We have blamed the president,we have blamed our leaders,they are guilty by their actions or inaction.

However,Corona Virus is now here with us and it is now spreading like wildfire.This virus has proved to us more than ever that we are mere mortals and it has exposed to us once more how frail we really are.

The lock down seems like the end of the world for some people,some are worried about

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On Menstrual Cycles and Safe periods.

Hello there! Hope you had a good day? My day was okay.๐Ÿ˜Š

I once saw a post by a FB friend saying how she has tried unsuccesfully to know her menstrual cycle and also calculate her ovulation days. I read a lot of the comments on that post,they were hilarious and I had a good laugh.

The summary of it all is that,quite a number of women and men said they could not get the hang of knowing safe days,fertile period and menstrual days ๐Ÿ˜Š.

It is actually quite easy. Let me try to break it down in the simplest way I know. The menstrual cycle for most women is between 21 to 35 days with the average being 28 days.

The cycle begins from the first day of one period to the first day of the next period ,usually,one would need to keep records of the dates of their periods for 3 to 6 consecutive months to get an average for the menstrual cycle.

I will write from my experience of having to rely on my knowledge of this over a period of time and reading copiously over the years. I will be using my own cycle to try to explain.

I have a 32 day cycle .In February,

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