Life Issues & Inspiration

One of the best things that probably ever happened to me was reading one book ” The Five Love Languages For Singles” by Gary Chapman, a renowned Marriage Counselor ,Author and Pastor.
Before I read the book,I had never really thought about people having a certain way they like to be shown love or a certain way they express love to others. Reading the book opened my mind and eyes to the fact that people love,show love and express love in different ways. It got me thinking about all the people I know and how consciously or unconsciously they express love or the lack of it to me and others.

The book identified the 5 long languages as follows; Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. It established that these were the 5 main ways people expressed and received love,it also went ahead to say it was possible for a person to be ‘bilingual’ or have a primary and secondary love language. This made sense.

However, today,

Happy New Year good people! Better late than never right?😀
So it is 2019!Yay! The year has just started,it is a new dawn,a new opportunity to do things over. 2018 is gone,forever! Perhaps there were things you failed to achieve ? You had a heartbreak? You lost your job? You failed at business again? You failed an exam? You didn’t achieve all you set out to achieve? Well,God has given you and I a new opportunity to do it over. A brand new year!
It is like turning a fresh page after messing up or doodling all over the initial page . The important thing is this;in all your failures,whether real or perceived,what did you learn? Did you take your lessons? Did you become better?
Over the years,I have learnt to always go back ,pause and ponder,more like a process where I go back in my mind to whatever happened and I play it all back objectively,is there something I could have done differently? Could I have changed by results by doing things differently?I come to a conclusion

A couple of days ago,I read in the news with absolute horror the story of the father who lived with his daughter and slept with her often. He was not just having sex with her but was also giving her contraceptives to ensure she didn’t get pregnant! What depravity!

Then yesterday ,a popular TV personality is also said to have opined on a live show that although she trusts her husband but she would not trust him to or would not let him bathe their daughter. On this,I can’t say much,for one,I didn’t watch the program,two,people have been known to deliberately misconstrue or misunderstand what a ‘celebrity’ said and give it their own meaning while pinning it on the person.

However,the world as we knew it has changed so drastically. I am shocked at the recent stories that have come up about fathers sleeping with their daughters,I don’t understand any of it😕😠.
For some reason,three days ago,when I woke up,I was nostalgic. I missed my dad so much. He is well and alive and just a phone call away but…At a time ,I lived alone with my dad,I am the last child in my family and my parents both worked,my mum was working then in a different location and we had just moved from Kwara State to our ‘new ‘ state,Kogi State. My dad was to be stationed at Lokoja,the state capital. I was about 8 at this time.