Mummyhood and Wifehood

It is a rather quiet Sunday night.I am lying on my bed and my mind is just roaming. The kids are not home and Ogbeni Michael is in the living room waiting to watching the news🙄. I am tired of the news these days,mostly depressing news. So instead of watching the news,I came in to find something to read. I have been reading a book on Spontaneous Healing for over a year🙈. Don’t bother wondering why. Even me I can’t explain it.

Anyway,I digress. To what is really on my mind. I have always considered myself a ‘matter of fact’ kind of person who can have the most difficult conversations without flinching or showing any outward signs of unease. That was till I met my kids😃Lord! Those two can ask the most difficult and sometimes embarassing questions😀😀😀.
I remember once when Nicole was 6years old,her brother was about 2 years then,she came to me and asked me that did I say boys have penises and girls have vaginas? I winced as I was at this point just getting used to talks of vaginas and penises with a child🙈I said yes. She then asked again,all boys and all girls?I said yes again. She paused for a little while and said so daddy also has a penis?

It’s been a minute. 😊
How have you been? I am okay. Trying to stay afloat and make this money😀. It is a jungle out here.
So,I have been worrying over a lot of things lately,yea, I know worrying does no one any good. I am trying to work on not worrying or fretting over things so much. One major thing I tend to worry about is my kids,how am I doing with them? Am I doing enough? Am I creating great enough memories for them?

Been a little while! I have been trying to make this money. 😀It is no excuse though as I tell myself everyday,” Yetunde! You need to be more consistent with your writing,you can’t just be going on and off and having long spells of ‘dryness’ . I honestly am trying to stay consistent. Part of the reason I need an accountability partner 😊.
So,these few days,I am realizing that being a mum can be life changing,sometimes,I think I have a hang of it,at other times,I feel out of sorts and wonder if I am doing a good job.
Some days back,I had an interesting conversation with my daughter,Nicole.

A Facebook friend recently made a post asking women how their bodies have changed after going through pregnancy and giving birth. I chuckled when I saw the post as I have been meaning to do a post on it.
However before I talk about the after baby body,perhaps,I would need to first talk about my before baby body and pregnancy. While I was in the University,I weighed between 74-78kg,I was not by any chance a slim person as I have always had big bones ,but I was in great physical shape because I was quite active. I had a wash board tummy because I tried to ensure that my stomach stayed flat through an early morning exercise routine . I put on some weight after school and by the time I was getting married,I weighed close to 90kg.🙈

Shortly after I got married,I took in,by the way,Mike and I had agreed to wait 6 months to 1 year before we get

For some reason,I remember when Mike and I first got married. We had dated for 5 long years and I had known him for 7years. Mike had always told me since I knew him that he would like to marry early, he said if he had his way,he would be married at 26😰. I on the other hand was uncertain as to whether I wanted to even be married,I had a secret phobia for marriage, I can’t explain it because my parents who were my first hand experience of what marriage was like had and still have a good marriage. I just didn’t see myself as the marrying kind,every time I thought about marriage,I would shove the thought to the back of my mind,I would tell myself that there was plenty of time as I had till I was 35 to decide if I wanted to marry or not. Funny but this was how I felt.

Fast forward to meeting this tall,hunk of a man who would not stop talking about getting married 😒. He told me he wanted to marry me barely 8 months into being an item. Me I was ‘adonkia’ as my grandma would say about getting married. Eventually,after a long wait,we got married on the 2nd day of May 2009. The first week of married life was not the way I envisaged it would

What image does wonder woman evoke in your mind? Is it that Marvel’s portrayal of her? Beautiful,strong,self sufficient,confident and always willing to stand up for what is right? Nice image ,right?
While it is okay to want to fit this image,it is difficult and usually not without it’s attendant problems.The average woman is wonder woman ,Are you ? Most women I know take care of everyone,they care for their husbands,their kids,their parents,their relatives,their friends,their workers and even their enemies! Taking care of everyone but themselves! I was once like this, heck! I am still struggling with being like this, first because of my ‘overdo’ nature😒 I tend to give