Hello there!

How are you today? I am okay,been better but I’ll live. Fell ill,still in the recovery process and hope to be as good as new soon. There seems to be something in the air that is making people fall ill,a friend said it is covid,I certainly hope not!

I have observed people a lot lately and something continues to perplex me,I don’t seem to understand it at all. I am a very forthright person,I have also learnt over the years and as I grew older to be as honest and open in my communication as possible.

I saw a post where someone said they had dated a man for some years and were supposed to be meeting the parents but she found out the guy was marrying someone else. 😢 I don’t understand this kind of behaviour ,like why would you even do that? Why lead people on?It is much better to be open with what you want and don’t want.

Why do people lie about what they want? If it is a fling,please do not give people false hopes. Life is really complicated enough for most people,I don’t think it should be compounded any further.

If you like someone,please tell them,don’t assume they won’t like you back. If you know someone likes you and there is no chance of you liking them back or ever being in a relationship with them,please do not encourage or lead them on.

Relationships these days are the way they are not because love changed and stopped existing. It is because people became more and more selfish,thinking of only themselves and what serves them. Playing silly games with other people’s emotions for whatever reasons they convinced themselves was justifiable enough.

I am not big on mind games or beating about the proverbial bush. At every point in time,I acknowledge first to myself exactly what I want and then verbalise it. Reason when Mike and I first started out,I told him,see,I am big on communication,I do not want to guess or wonder where I am or where you are,if at any time you think we are not working,please say it to me,I will be hurt but I won’t die.

The one that I don’t understand at all is the “ghosting”. That one is the height of wickedness for me. You are in a relationship with someone ,you initiated this relationship (or not) but you agreed to be in the relationship and then suddenly you go cold on them for no obvious reason,is it not easier to just say, lagbaja,come o,this thing we have is not working for me and I’d like for us to just move on with our various lives. Is that not way easier?Even if it is not,it is the decent thing to do.

It is past 1.00am,I have beside me a cup of tea,I am not a tea person but like I said,I am recovering😆.I am not sleepy,I slept more than half the day yesterday,infact all afternoon and these have been my thoughts for a little while now.
Please be forthright with the people in your life,if you do not want that person in your life,let them go! If you are withholding information about yourself that you know will make a huge difference in how they see you,please come correct and let them have the choice of deciding whether they still want to be with you regardless or they would rather move on without you.You owe them the gift of choice.😊
It is less than a week to Christmas. I am happy for the gift of the season,I am happy for the gift of family and loved ones.

Like a child,the joy of Christmas is never lost on me. I hope it is never lost on you too😊

❤
Yetunde