It is a rather quiet Sunday night.I am lying on my bed and my mind is just roaming. The kids are not home and Ogbeni Michael is in the living room waiting to watching the news🙄. I am tired of the news these days,mostly depressing news. So instead of watching the news,I came in to find something to read. I have been reading a book on Spontaneous Healing for over a year🙈. Don’t bother wondering why. Even me I can’t explain it.

Anyway,I digress. To what is really on my mind. I have always considered myself a ‘matter of fact’ kind of person who can have the most difficult conversations without flinching or showing any outward signs of unease. That was till I met my kids😃Lord! Those two can ask the most difficult and sometimes embarassing questions😀😀😀.
I remember once when Nicole was 6years old,her brother was about 2 years then,she came to me and asked me that did I say boys have penises and girls have vaginas? I winced as I was at this point just getting used to talks of vaginas and penises with a child🙈I said yes. She then asked again,all boys and all girls?I said yes again. She paused for a little while and said so daddy also has a penis? By this time ehn,I wanted to run away but I managed to sit still. I said yes he does. She then said he must have a big penis because daddy is really big! Ewo! I can’t even remember my response but ehn at that point I was wondering if I should not just leave this early and age appropriate sex education thing alone.😀😀

Another time,I was driving and Nicole asked me how babies are born. My mind ran wild,what do I say now? How do I say it? I opted to tell her the truth,so I explained that babies are either born through the vagina or through a C-section. She then proceeded to ask me if vagina was that little place she urinates from,I said yes! I was blowing hot and cold at this point. 😀She was quiet for a while and then she asked me if the vaginas heal after having babies. I answered in the affirmative. Next question was what a C-section was,I explained and she said I am sure you had my brother through that,how about me?I said same thing and she heaved a very audible sigh of relief.😀

A little while back,Zayne came to me and asked if baby girls have anuses,I was puzzled as I said yes and that everyone had anuses. He asked that were anuses for pooping or weeing. I kept talking till he said that he saw a baby girl with a hole where her penis should be. I understood then that he must have seen someone changing the diaper of a baby girl. I asked and he confirmed as much. I had to explain to him again the difference between boys and girls as he previously only knew girls had vaginas but had never seen one.

Another time,he came into our room while Mike and I were asleep and cuddled up. He later asked me why daddy gets to sleep with me every night on the bed,why could daddy not go and sleep in their own room while he and his sister sleep in our bed😅.

Kids do say the darndest things. I look forward to some of our conversations as it helps me to know and understand what goes through their minds. However  I sometimes feel like I am on the hot seat and wish I could just do what most parents used to do in our days. Hush us up😑 These conversations are sometimes uncomfortable and weird. I sometimes have to find a quick way out by stylishly diverting their attention while I look for the best way to answer the questions truthfully and in a way they will understand.

Truth is,nothing ever prepares one enough for parenthood. Motherhood has had me sometimes doubt  myself and my capabilities. It has its ups and downs and I have had my fair share. However,it is still one of the best things ever to happen to me.😁 Do I sometimes feel out of sorts?YES! Is it all sometimes overwhelming?YES! Is it worth  all of the squirms,inadequate sleep,up and down emotions,time, energy and all? For me,it is! 😊

Christmas is just a few days from now and I am super excited. I love Christmas! Remember,Jesus is the reason for the season.  Remember to be kind and show love to someone this season and always.  😘😘

From me to you, Season’s  greetings!