Hi there,

How are you doing today? How are you treating the new year? May the year be filled with many blessings and I do hope that the year brings with it so much happiness and fulfillment of your dreams in Jesus’s name,amen!

Seeing that we are in a new year and it is still early yet,let me talk about something that affects us all in one way or the other.Just maybe,it will make the year much better for someone.😊
Relationships are one of the things that keep us all going. Be it filial,romantic,platonic,name it! Humans are built for relationships,we have a need for connection with others. I believe this was what God meant when he created Eve after Adam.

People who do not have meaningful relationships rarely thrive. When I say meaningful relationships,I am not referring to just romantic relationships.I am saying any kind of relationship or support system that makes your life feel fuller,richer and more fulfilling.

Have you ever had a friend,boyfriend,girlfriend,relative or even parent that is ‘cold ‘ towards you? I mean that no matter what you do,say and no matter how you strive to please the person,it just never seems to be enough? How did it make you feel?

The thing is this,when you are in an unequally yoked relationship with someone,you will never get satisfaction from that relationship. I dislike unbalanced equations( you do know that I hate maths but this sounds cool,yea😃)

Let me put it in a simpler way,for a relationship to work out,energies must match,feelings must be mutual,do not go chasing after people who do not give a hoot about you. That is a free pass to frustration because no matter what you do,it will never be enough.

I am a very sensitive person,I read between the lines a lot and I am also a good communicator so I always express exactly how I feel at every point in time to people in my life. I have realized that this is a huge blessing for me,being able to say what is on my mind and express it to whoever is concerned.

I also do not put myself out for someone who won’t do same for me. In other words,balance is a must. So,are there people in your life right now who always make you feel like you are the one going all out for them and you get nothing in return? Have you talked about it? What was the response? Have they adjusted and are making a clear effort to do better?

Relationships are actually a two way street. It takes two to tango. Respect is reciprocal,love and care should be same way. Do not keep giving and giving till you are all drained and you get nothing in return. At the end of the day,people will treat you how you let yourself be treated.

Do you have someone in your life currently that you know that you have not treated well or you just do not really want them in your life? Please,just tell them and cut them loose. Do not be selfish and enjoy all the positive and good energy they bring to you and then you give them nothing in return.

My guiding principle as regarding relationships is to do to others what I want done to me. Reason why I never bite more than I can chew. My friends can testify to the fact that I go all out for them. I don’t have too many people in my circle because I invest a lot of time and energy in my relationships and I will be spread thin if there are too many people in it.

This year,please do better. You do not want someone in your life? Please have that discussion today. You feel that you are giving too much and getting nothing in return? Talk about it and if you see no change,it may hurt but perhaps it is just time to let them go?it may just be time to prioritize yourself😊

Be good to yourself. Give yourself permission to be awesome and while at it,remember to be happy.

❤
Yetunde

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