Today was not such a good day for me,but like always,I learnt from it!
Some days back,I had gone to a shop where mannequins are sold to check if I could get one,I got there and not only did I see them,I also saw pinnable dress forms!Yay! This type of dress forms are like ‘work in progress kind of mannequins’ ,you can use them to fit your designs while working on them. I had been looking to buy one for a while and I was excited. I saw a beautiful flower patterned one and had my mind set on it. On Monday,I went back there and met the shop owner,we spoke and After agreeing on price,I decided to buy one dress form and one plastic mannequin,I paid the full price of the mannequin and asked that it be kept as deposit for both as I would like to pick them same time.
There was a little problem though,there was a new dress form I had not seen when I went there earlier,they were same price,it was a bland cream,no design at all but it had all the body parts needed for a pattern design outlined,it would make teaching a newbie patterns and design parts easy, however the patterned one felt fuller and sturdier. I was confused as to which to pick;functionality over beauty and durability?
I asked to get back to her on which to keep for me the next day as we had agreed I would pick them up by second week in June latest.
I went home,the next day being tuesday,by night I had not called her,not because I forgot but I was still undecided.
On Wednesday,I spent most of the day with my cousin,Ireti. My phone was by my side and I picked all calls that came in to my phone.
Today,I made up my mind and called her,her line was not going through so I sent her an sms saying she should keep the bland cream with the design lines for me. About 2 hours later,she replied my sms saying she had sold it! Lord! I called her immediately,she said she had called me yesterday twice to confirm but I didn’t pick,I told her I was with my phone all day,there was no missed call from you or anyone else and you could have sent me an sms? She kept insisting she called me and that the person brought cash and she asked the person to wait till today. She said she sold it today.
I was upset,I told her okay and cut the line,she called back justifying why she sold it,I told her there was no explanation that she would give me that would be okay,but it was fine.
I went to her shop,she kept insisting she called me yesterday,I looked through my phone,I did not see any missed call from her or anyone. I asked why she did not send an sms or send one this morning to say she needed clarification? Can’t even remember her answer. I was gutted.
I left.
I was sad and angry, my whole day had been ruined.
Later,as I sulked over the matter,I asked myself,did I have any fault in this? My conclusion is this,I do not have control over what she does,did or did not do,however,I had control over what I could have done?I could have called her earlier,I could have sent her an sms on Tuesday night saying I am still undecided however if you have a buyer,please call or send an sms. I had already decided that I did not need to wait till the agreed 2nd week in June,I was going to pick them this saturday and pay up the balance. I could have communicated as such,I do not know her situation,I do not know if she needed money,I don’t have control over her actions but I have full control of mine. She apologized profusely. She insisted she called me,her apology did not make me feel better,the bland dress form is gone,it was what I had decided on and wanted.
Sometimes in life,things like this happen to us,however, in all of it,always remember,you only have control over yourself,that one wey be your own,do am!Let it be that you did your utmost and things still ended up not going the way you wanted. Am I absolving her entirely,no! Would I have done things the same way she did,maybe not. However,life goes on,I am still not pleased with how things turned out but,I have picked my lesson and moved on.
As always,this is me,saying to you,do your part,be happy,life is too short to be anything but happy!