It’s been a minute. 😊
How have you been? I am okay. Trying to stay afloat and make this money😀. It is a jungle out here.
So,I have been worrying over a lot of things lately,yea, I know worrying does no one any good. I am trying to work on not worrying or fretting over things so much. One major thing I tend to worry about is my kids,how am I doing with them? Am I doing enough? Am I creating great enough memories for them?do they think I am fun? How will I have the sex talk with Nicole and so on🙈🙊
Lately,I realize I think a lot about Nicole. I see so much of myself in her and it scares me sometimes. She is just at that stage where she is becoming self conscious, puberty!😩 I realize she loves short skirts,ehn,this bothers me a lot because short skirts were my thing throughout my teenage years,my mum was traumatized through my teenage years,we were always arguing about one thing or the other and I can’t help but wonder if this will be Nicole and I in a few years. Is this karma or what?😂😂😂
Nicole is growing so fast I don’t seem to be able to keep up and she is so excited about the changes in her body and what to expect.
However,we talk and she is comfortable enough to ask me anything and believe me when I say she sometimes asks the most difficult and embarrassing questions.
Zayne,on the other hand just leaves you dumbfounded with his questions and some of the things he blurts out😂😂😂😂.
Another thing I worry about is whether we are bringing up well rounded individuals who don’t just have high IQs but also have the right amount of emotional and social intelligence to see them through life and their relationships with people. For instance,Nicole cries easily when she is upset and I used to get a tad impatient till I remembered that I was like that at her age too before I became this ‘hard’ person I am today😂😂. Oba is a really kind hearted person and I worry that people might take his kindness for weakness despite knowing that he is far from being weak.(Oba and Zayne are one and same person😀)
I also worry about bringing up kids who have the mental,emotional,spiritual as well physical strength to withstand the rigours of life,with the things I see these days,I can’t help wondering if kids are not being brought up with the right values or they just wilfully derail to fit into a certain mould and stereotype.
Intentional parenting is not the easiest job. If one is focused on raising kids for the long haul ,kids who won’t just grow up to be passive members of the society but will be thought leaders and an intergral part of their society, then one must be willing to do right by these kids and put in the hardwork required.
I have discovered that being this kind of parent is not a destination but a continuous journey…I’ll be talking about the things I do and steps I took to be on this parenting journey in my next post.😊
Let me try to get some sleep now. It is Friday! This is me saying to you,give yourself permission yo be happy😘

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