Hey there!

How is it going? How have you been? How are you taking the whole Covid-19 situation and the lock down?

I have been good and just trying to stay positive and take each day at a time. It is not convenient and emotionally tasking for some of us,still,we have to keep going😊.

Over the years,I have tried to give my kids,Nicole and Zayne,age appropriate sex education,sometimes,it was downright embarrassing,at other times,it was just funny.

But all along,I have dreaded the day I would talk to either of them about actual sex. Ah! As in actual sex about the penis and the vagina🙈. I however recognized that it had to be done but it was not something I looked forward to.

Also,I kept wondering when exactly it was appropriate to even talk about actual sex. I decided that as I have always done,I will let my kids take the lead and this will let me know what they are ready for.

One early morning towards the end of March,two weeks to Nicole’s 10th birthday,I had a long chat with my friend,Janie,whose first child is a year older than Nicole. We talked about when is the right time and she said she spoke to her daughter about the same age as Nicole.I asked her if she talked about specifics,she said yes and she had to even talk about part of her sexual history to drive her points home.

After that conversation with my friend,I decided I would talk to Nicole on her 10th birthday. However,the thought kept niggling at me and I suddenly became uncomfortable. I started wondering if I was not delaying things unnecessarily because I didn’t want her to get the wrong information elsewhere.

The next day,I decide to have a chit chat with her to get a feel of what she knew apart from what I have discussed with her over the years. So Mike took Zayne to the car to listen to music while I talked to Nicole.

I said a quick prayer and asked God to help me. I started by going over with her all of what we had previously discussed. I then asked her to tell me what she knew about sex. Hmmmm, She said “sex is between two adults who are in love or married” I can’t even lie,my head was somewhat heavy.

I dug further and asked if she knew what it entailed,she said she knew that they somehow make their private parts touch. By this time,I was sweating a little.😃We read the dictionary definition of sex. Then we went to where it all started, the book of genesis.

We discussed a lot,we ended up talking for almost 2 hours.Surprising yea? 😁For something I dreaded so much,it was really easy,we talked about everything from sex to what to expect further as she proceeds through adolescence,homosexuality, transgenders, abstinence,pornography and all of that.

Nicole has always been very inquisitive,she asked a lot of questions and I answered as truthfully and as age appropriately as I could.

We ended our discussion with me telling her to never forget she could always ask or tell me anything about whatever topic including sex. I also reminded her like I always do that societal and peer pressure as well as the need/urge to fit in will always be there.
However,knowing who you are and what you believe as well as why you believe it is very important to help one navigate through all forms of pressure.

I am so relieved that I finally faced my fear and we had fun with the talk. Talking and educating your child about sex as well as other life issues is a continuous thing and one we should take seriously as parents.😊

P.S

I got the books on the featured image from one of Jehovah’s Witnesses stand at no cost. I have read through them and it is a compilation of Questions Young People Ask from the Awake magazines ( I read them growing up because they are really educative even though my parents are Anglicans) . If you are a Christian parent to a preteen and a teenager. I would  recommend you get it for your wards at your discretion if you can. It discusses  virtually every topic that could be of concern to your preteens,teenagers and young adults from a christian view.This does not of course replace your discussion with them,it just makes it easier.

Nicole is yet to read it. I have read it. She will read it in the next 1 to 2 years I believe.😊

Photo Credit: Questions Young People Ask volume 1 and 2