Been a little while! I have been trying to make this money. 😀It is no excuse though as I tell myself everyday,” Yetunde! You need to be more consistent with your writing,you can’t just be going on and off and having long spells of ‘dryness’ . I honestly am trying to stay consistent. Part of the reason I need an accountability partner 😊.
So,these few days,I am realizing that being a mum can be life changing,sometimes,I think I have a hang of it,at other times,I feel out of sorts and wonder if I am doing a good job.
Some days back,I had an interesting conversation with my daughter,Nicole. We had gone to her school’s inter house sports,I met a few of her friends and classmates. When we got back home,I asked after one of her friends I had met that day,she had a special needs sister and Nicole and I talk about the different kinds of special children/ people from time to time. Nicole then asked me what category the sister fell in,I answered her honestly that I had no idea.
Her next question caught me unawares,she asked if there were certain type of people who had special needs children or anyone could have a special needs child? I answered her that age,genes and ‘chance’ are all contributory factors but there is no absolute telling.
We progressed from there and then this girl tells me she plans to have only one child😱😱😱 The Nigerianess in me asked her why? She then went on to start explaining how one child is easier to love and then it is easier to just give your love 100% to your one child than to divide your love between a spouse and say,3 children. I sort of panicked,wondering if she in any way felt unloved or felt that my love for her reduced because I had her brother. I asked as much and she responded that she does not think so,she just thinks that it is easier to love one person 100% than to split the love between more than one.
However,I explained to her that she and her brother are two different individuals and I love her 100% as well as I love her brother 100%.
This girl looks at me and said so how many percent do you love daddy then?😶😛😂😂😂
We both laughed and I realize more than ever that this little girl of mine is growing fast and as I strive to find a balance between being her best friend,confidant and that person that can wield the stick when necessary,I pray everyday that I am a good mum to my kids.
I will be back soon,in the mean time,stay happy and be good to yourself!