Good evening!

How have we all been? Good I hope? How was your day?

Been okay. January went by so fast that it felt like I barely had time to catch my breath before February rolled in again.

Been a little while. How is the not so new year going for you? I pray it goes great and every good thing you want for yourself happens for you this year by God’s grace.

I have a host of things that I would like to to talk about so I guess I will just have to take them one thing at a time.

Since we are in the month of February,the month of St Valentine,we might as well talk about love 😊.

Love? What does love mean to you? What does a person have to do or say to you to make you feel like they love you?

It has been established that there are 5 major love languages and people will generally express love the way they expect to be loved. Let me put it this way; those things you do to people to show them you love them is generally how you want to be shown love.

A lot of people do not even know or are yet to identify their love language. Let’s just mention them as put forward and categorised by ‘experts’. We have Quality Time,Acts of Service,Receiving gifts,Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation.

These are the ways by which humans are said to give and recieve love. There is a test you can find online to determine what your Primary love language is. Just type “5 love languages” or “love language test”.
It is possible to have more than one love language and it is also possible to be bilingual,in which case you have more than one way that speaks love to you.

Moving on,because we tend to express love in our own love language,which may or may not be different from our partner’s,we may find that what we consider loving them may not appear so to them and they do not feel adequately loved.

For me,my primary love language is quality time and the secondary is a tie between Acts of service and words of Affirmation. Now,imagine I were to live apart from my family or have a husband who lives abroad? That is the quickest way to problems because I have a need for quality time spent together.

Now,speaking about valentine,to gift your loved one? You may need to do something that speaks their love language. For instance if your loved one’s language is Words of Affirmation ,a poem or something that tells them exactly how you feel about them in black and white may be your best bet.

Some people like physical touch,for that kind of person,you know that you are requires to be physically present with them to show them that indeed you love and cherish being with them,you also need to be physically expressive and show them rather than tell them you love them.

I think pretty much everyone likes to recieve gifts,especially one that they were not really expecting. When it comes to giving gifts,I take my cues from something they have talked about or something I believe they would like to have. Gifts have to be thoughtful,it is really not how much it cost you but how much thought you put into it.

For instance,I have a friend who is a caterer and is passionate about what she does,if I were to buy her a gift,I would buy her something really unique that has to do with her job,like a beautiful set of gold-plated serving spoons or a set of dishes,these are just ideas of what someone like that would generally like.

In essence,love is not just the feeling you get or the butterflies you get in your tummy when you see that loved one. Love is the thought you give the person,it is the consideration you give them above all else.
Love is not always convenient or pleasant at all times,there are days that it is a struggle but you choose to love all the same.
Like a beautiful and fragile plant that needs water,air and sunlight to grow,Love needs to be nurtured and cared for at all times. Love is present and never seeks to bring down or subdue😊

Love is the commitment to say “I am here” through all of the ups and downs of life,through thick and thin. Love is not a feeling,it is action.

Take care of yourself and remember,love starts from you and extends to others. To be able to love others,you have to love yourself first.

❤
Yetunde

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