I have been MIA for a while!😔I need to change! But over the past month, I have had cause to think about what proper upbringing entails . I am thankful for my parents and the family I was born into. I am finding everyday that my parents did a great job with us, they were not perfect, no, but they did great.
Just last week, in a whatsapp group I belong to, we were discussing the way some teenagers and young adults a these days behave within and outside their homes and it leaves a lot to be desired. A lot of the group members shared their experiences of family members or relatives that have stayed with them for one reason or the other and how much entitlement, laziness, ill manners and even bad attitude they had to put up with before eventually finding a way to either get the people out of their houses or the relationship completely deteriorated.

I am all for bringing up intelligent, self confident and independent kids and helping them to be the best they can be. However, remember that it is not enough to just be brilliant and not learn to relate with people or interact with others regardless of sex, race , religion, age and so on. Human beings are social animals and most of us thrive on relationships.

As much as I want my kids to be intelligent and do great things, I also want them to learn empathy, to learn to be courteous, sensitive as well as be emotionally intelligent.
Now, maybe I am old fashioned, maybe not. I really don’t care much for labels but I believe that when you visit someone else’s home,you must learn to adapt to whatever situation you find in that home as much and possible and within reasonable limits. For instance ,you are a guest in someone’s home,regardless of what you do in your home,if they have pap and akara for breakfast every morning,you should not start insisting that you want bread and fried eggs for breakfast.🙄Suck it up and have whatever they are having for breakfast . Now if it is something you do not eat for whatever reason,do not say for example “is there nothing else I can eat?or I never eat this in my house😞 This is not your house!You can politely decline and find something else to have for breakfast when you go out or something.

Also,you must learn to participate or help with housegold chores. Now, participating does not make you anybody’s maid. You can pick just one or two chores to help out with, for instance, if you sleep in their living room or wherever it is you sleep,when you get up,sweep it. You will not die😏. It is also important that you clean up after yourself and do not keep waiting for your host to clean up after you.

The long and short of everything I have been saying is this; do not go to people’s homes and make yourself a nuisance. Do not bring up your kids to be ‘ entitled brats’. The world does not owe them anything!

Now, “I am ready to drop my pen in the basket of love…”😂😂😂😂Who taught us this rubbish sef?😀. Always remember , it is important that you love yourself enough and work out your own happiness regardless of whatever you have going on around you.  Stay Safe!